The feeder and feedee community: where it lives online
The feeder and feedee community is growing fast. An honest overview of platforms, Discords, and how to find your place without hiding.
The feeder and feedee community was a well-kept secret for a long time. No subreddit you liked openly, no group chat you showed in your status. Today it's different. The scene is bigger, more active, and in the right places more honest than people expect. Here's my guide to finding your place today.
Why now is a good moment
Feedism is opening up. Mukbang is mainstream on TikTok, body positivity has shifted the conversation, and for the first time there are platforms that don't look like they're from 2008. That lowers the bar to "belonging" enormously.
What makes the feeder and feedee community
Unlike on normal dating apps, you don't have to explain yourself here. The words feeder, feedee, gainer, encourager, and stuffer are taken for granted. Consent is the standard, not a thing up for debate.
What connects us:
- The pleasure of eating, together, watched, shared.
- The fascination with body change, in both directions.
- An appreciation for enjoyment over the diet voice in your head.
- The shared experience of having hidden for a long time.
The main places in 2026
1. Specialized platforms
On Crave you'll find an active feeder and feedee community with real profiles, challenges, private chats, and a moderated community feed. Unlike the biggest mass-market platforms, replies are far more likely because the people there actually want to be found.
2. Discord servers
There are a few moderated servers, usually linked from profiles on Crave or Reddit. Upside: fast exchange. Downside: often no lasting contact.
3. Reddit
r/feederism and a handful of smaller subs are active. More for reading and getting inspired than for dating.
4. Telegram
Risky, lots of fakes, little moderation. Only worth it in private, closed circles.
How to find your place in the community
Step 1: a profile with personality. Three honest sentences beat any keyword list. Write how you tick, not just what you are.
Step 2: lurking is okay. Read through profiles and the community feed first. You don't have to post on day one.
Step 3: react to specific posts. A comment on a mukbang photo does more than ten "hi" messages in DMs.
Step 4: stay patient. Trust in the feedism community grows over weeks. Whoever leaves frustrated after three days hasn't lost anything, but neither has the community.
What the community expects from you
- Consent as a given. No pushing, no unsolicited photos, no "come on, just one bite."
- A real identity, no catfishing. Pictures that are really you. Belly photos are more welcome than models from Pinterest.
- Respect for boundaries. Including your own.
Common beginner mistakes
- Asking to meet right away. Get to know each other first, then video, then in person.
- Thinking in only one role. Many in the community are switches or still exploring.
- Apologizing for your own preference. You belong here. Nobody is judging you.
Why a specialized community beats Tinder and co.
On normal dating apps you get reported the moment "feeder" is in your profile. In the specialized feedism community it's standard vocabulary. You save yourself hours of explaining and awkward outings.
My closing tip
The feeder and feedee community is small enough that you'll see familiar faces within a few weeks, and big enough that pretty much everyone finds someone. The trick: show up regularly, not perfectly.
Create your Crave profile and be part of the community in 60 seconds. Before that, you might read How to become a feeder or Becoming a feedee: first steps.